I’m blessed that I have such wonderful friends in my life – both old friends who have been with me through my ups and downs – and new friends who only know me as the woman I am now, not the woman or girl I was in the past. When I wrote Love in Aoteoroa I interviewed hundreds of people about love in all its forms, but friendship was the love that children clearly understood. Here are some of the things they had to say about having friends:
‘Without friendships you would be miserable. You would be sad and you would have no one to love you.’ Esther, 10
‘Friendships are important. If you didn’t have any friends and you suddenly died, no-one would know about it.’ Miller, 10
‘It is easy to make friendships. All you need to do is to be nice to other people and they will be nice back.’ Caitlin, 12
Simple, isn’t it? Maybe all we need to do is remember our ten-year-old selves and be willing to make new friends with the same openness in our adult lives. Friendships add immeasurable love and laughter, support and kindness to the complex tapestry of life, so it would seem to me that there is little to lose.